We often get caught up debating issues and we forget to ask the right questions. Yesterday, I expressed my support for Miss. California, Carrie Prejean in THIS post. However, as I’ve thought on the situation over and over again, I cannot help but to ask the question to all of us, no matter what our sexual orientation, our religious preference, our race, or our personal backgrounds; “What If Carrie Prejean Supported Gay Marriage?” – I truly believe it is the question that is not being asked and it contains the answer that many people don’t want to focus on, especially the gay marriage activists.

Of course this is solely my opinion. Miss. California, Carrie Prejean, does not support gay marriage and her stance cost her the crown. However, I believe that we would be looking at a totally different story if she did support gay marraige.

What If She’d Said ‘YES’?

If Carrie Prejean said that she supported gay marriage, she would have become an immediate hero and hailed as a star by those who are pressing hard to change America’s laws in favor of their ideals. There is no question in my mind that Carrie would have won the Miss. USA pageant because she would have won the acceptance of the judges who favor gay marriage. Several of the judges said that in between the show’s break they shared their disapproval for Carrie’s answer, therefore they had already decided who their winner was going to be. However, if Carrie would have answered as they wanted, she would have immediately become the poster child for gay marriage rights in America.

Why Is California So Important?

We can debate all day long whether or not anyone knew that Miss. California was going to get asked the ‘gay marriage’ question. For me, there are too many questions surrounding the issue. In November, California’s citizens decided they wanted to define marriage between a man and a woman through their constitution. Gay rights activists did not like the decision and immediately went on a campaign to destroy all of the organizations and churches that stood strong for what they believed in and encouraged individuals to do so as well. Perez Hilton is from California and he is a gay man who opposed proposition 8 and speaks out in favor of gay marriage. I find it weird that he had the opportunity to ask the gay question to the representative of California, which was at the very center of the proposition 8 fiasco. In the interview by the today show, Perez said, “I expected her to be prepared ESPECIALLY, since she is Miss. California, the state that just passed prop 8. (See Video HERE) I truly believe that people like Perez Hilton live in La-La Land and truly believe that everyone believes and thinks like him, minus a few weird people. It would have been a huge victory for gay marriage activists if Miss. California supported their ideals on the stage of the Miss. USA pageant. Perez Hilton and the judges that support gay marriage wanted and needed Carrie Prejean to support their cause. Instead, she solidified that they are still losing the battle to change marriage. She solidified the the support of traditional marriage that a majority of Californians voted on in November. She also solidified that their ideals are still in the minority in America.

The BIG Double Standard

A lot of the people who have spoken out in opposition to Carrie had to soften up, yes, even the self proclaimed queen of media, Perez Hilton. Over the last couple of days they’ve said that Carrie lost because she took too specific of a stance in her answer, she should have been more middle of the road. Shanna Moakler said, “in my eyes, [she] simply made the question more personal then it needed to be…” Claudia Jordan, a former Miss. USA and a judge from this year’s competition said, “Its best to give a neutral answer.” Claudia went on to say that “The judges were really against her, they didn’t like her answer.” Perez Hilton said, “I was hoping she’d gave a better answer…the answer she gave alienated gays…” Perez went on to say Miss. USA needs to be “political savvy” and not “politically incorrect.”

Oh really? The BIG double standard lies here. Would Carrie Prejean be facing the same attacks, the same outrage, and the same scrutiny right now if she would have said, “Yes, I support gay marriage and believe that all other states should follow Vermont’s lead.” Perez Hilton’s question wasn’t even politically correct. When asking the question, it was done in a way to praise “rights given to gay Americans” and should other states follow suit. He didn’t ask “Should all states decide issues such as gay marriage, abortion, etc?” However, because Carrie answered specifically, she gets accused of alienating a group of people. Would Perez have gotten angry and mad had Carrie supported gay marriage and declared that she was not the Right person for Miss. USA because she alienated all Conservatives, the Christians, and even the gays who do not support gay marriage? Would he have been my night in shining armor as she shared her beliefs and alienated me? Mr. Hilton, Ms. Moakler, Ms. Jordan, would you have demanded a more neutral answer or a more middle of the road answer if she supported your ideals?

UPDATE: This story was just posted to Fox News further illustrating other contestants’ view that Miss. California should have been more “politically correct” – however, it also further illustrates my point of a double standard. In their interviews they are speaking out on behalf of gay marriage which is not politically correct if there is a segment of people (a majority of people), who oppose same sex marriage. Are they not doing the very thing they accuse Miss. California of doing? Alienating people?

The Enigma

Carrie Prejean is now being treated like an Enigma. Hollywood came out and land blasted her. The media is trying to paint her as someone who is out of touch. Other activists are trying to present her as someone who does not represent her generation. Here’s the facts that they don’t want you to believe or understand. If you believe in traditional marriage, between one man and one woman as described in the Bible, you are the majority. However, you would not think so based on the media coverage and the noise coming out of Hollywood. For every report given on this story, you will see outrage by 8 people and one person defending what Carrie did. The attempt is to make you feel as if you are an enigma in your beliefs and in your standards. Who wants to feel like they are standing alone? Who wants to feel like they are out of touch and strange? Some of us don’t mind, but others do, especially the younger generation. Many of whom will not go to school and among their peers and take strong stances like Carrie did. The gay marriage activists want to hit this issues so hard, that people give in, simply so they are not labeled an extremist, a bigot, or any other name they throw at us. I wonder how many pageant candidates, judges, and even Hollywood stars there are who are verbally telling these activists what they want to hear but in the privacy of a voting booth, voting their concise and their beliefs?

Perez Hilton went around the other day, asking individual stars on Twitter if they supported gay marriage. Some responded while others did not. Do you really believe after watching his tirade online, hearing his attacks, and watching others devour Carrie, that another young star would throw their head on the chopping block and say that they did not support gay marriage? Its like seeing a pool full of paranas and offering to jump in.

President Barack Obama

Why wasn’t the same outrage and attacks levied against President Barack Obama when he sat on Saddleback’s stage in Lake Forest, California and verbally affirmed that he believes marriage is between a man and a woman? (See Video Below) Where was Perez Hilton then? Did the Hollywood President not alienate all of the gay marriage activists, their friends, and their families? Where was Shanna Moakler disgusted at this man? Where was Claudia Jordan requesting a neutral answer? Why is Carrie having to carry a load from the very individuals and groups that gave the President a pass?

The Bottom Line

The bottom line is this. We get caught up in the debate and we don’t ask the right questions. What if Carrie Prejean supported gay marriage? There would not be the same outrage. Sure Christians would be disappointed, but we would not have threatened to run on stage and steal her tiara. The gay marriage activists are revealing their true intolerance. I don’t think gay marriage is about rights because they have all the rights we have as individuals. Its about taking something away that is sacred. There is no doubt in my mind, the gay marriage activists would have loved to have had this young, Christian, woman to be their Miss. USA in support of gay marriage. It would have been one more bullet in their arsenal to paint Christians who oppose gay marriage as old, out of touch, and irrelevant. Thankfully, there is one young lady who has delighted herself in the Lord, and has character, integrity, and values, and did not allow herself to become a pawn against Christians and others who stand for strong morals and principles.