I started reading, “It’s Better to Build Boys Than Mend Men” by S. Truett Cathy
Chapter One shares these disturbing facts about fatherlessness in the United States:
The Results of Fatherlessness:
The United States is the world’s leader in fatherless homes. The results of our actions, according to the Father’s Manifesto:
- 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes
- 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes (I personally see the results of this daily).
- 80% of rapists motivated with displaced angers come from fatherless homes.
- 71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes
- 85% of youth in prison grew up in fatherless homes
- 75% of all adolescent patients in drug treatment centers come from fatherless homes (I personally see this manifest itself in adult males, daily)
Children from Fatherless Homes are:
- 5 times more likely to commit suicide
- 32 times more likely to run away
- 20 times more likely to have behavioral disorders
- 14 times more likely to commit rape
- 9 times more likely to drop out of school
- 10 times more likely to abuse chemical substances
- 9 times more likely to end up in a state-operated institution
- 20 times more likely to end up in prison
When we hear or read ‘fatherless’ homes, we tend to assume that there is no father figure in the home, however Truett Cathy points out that many, “children all around us are growing up without strong positive guidance from their parents, who are busy, distracted, absent, or who choose to be buddies instead of parents to their children.” Some fatherless homes are homes with a disengaged father living in them. So, whether the father has left the home or is simply disengaged and still living in the home; a father’s choices and actions make a huge impact on his children.
Truett Cathy makes the following point, “Don’t be too concerned that your children don’t listen to you. But be very concerned that they see everything you do.” Mr. Cathy’s story is one of a disengaged father, but he had a Sunday School teacher that came along and provided a positive, father-like influence in his life that made a huge impact in his life.
In what ways do you as a dad need to engage your children in a positive, Biblical way to impact their future? Do you know of any children that have a disengaged or an absent father in their life that you can influence in a positive, Biblical way as a father-like mentor?
