Pivot Points Part 2

On Monday, I posted about one of the pivot points that Nicki and I made in our marriage. As a result of our choice we’ve seen the fingerprints of God on our home time after time.

Today, my post is not about a pivot point as a couple, rather, a pivot point that I made as an individual before I got married. Couples make decisions and commitments together all the time. After all, when standing at the altar, the minister officiating a wedding asks for a commitment from the couple in order to fulfill the requirements of the ceremony. How many times has a couple made a vow and commitment to each other and it is broken? It happens all the time.

Commitments to each other will only be upheld if each individual makes a decision in their own heart that they will fulfill that vow.

PIVOT POINT #2: Established Boundaries

The song made famous by Top Gun says the following in some of it’s lyrics…

Revvin’ up your engine listen to her howlin’ roar
Metal under tension beggin’ you to touch and go

Highway to the Danger Zone ride into the Danger Zone

Out along the edges always where I burn to be
The further on the edge the hotter the intensity

Highway to the Danger Zone gonna take you
Right into the Danger Zone

Danger Zone by Kenny Loggins

A life and marriage without boundaries is a life lived on the edge, not begging to be in the danger zone, but already there!

This was a commitment I made BEFORE I got married. It is a commitment I would encourage any man or woman whether single, dating or engaged to make now. It is definitely a commitment that I would encourage any married man or woman to make if they have not already done so.

Who is this commitment made to?

  1. God
  2. Your (future or current) spouse
  3. Yourself

Shortly after I was married, someone (who will remain nameless), decided they would try to trap me and (I guess) test my commitment to my wife. This was back in the day when instant messaging was like today’s Twitter and Facebook.

I got a request from this “someone” and I didn’t recognize their user name. They posed as a UGA cheerleader and immediately started saying they noticed I was a Bulldog fan and liked certain things for which they had in common. The funny thing was, I did not post any of that information in my personal profile, so I immediately knew something was wrong.

I did two things. First, I contacted two or three people who I trusted and told them what was going on and that I had  suspicions that it was someone I knew. Secondly, I continued to lead this person on through the instant messenger to try and discover who it was that was trying to obviously hurt me and my reputation. This person was asking me to come see them at a Georgia game, for which I had never been able to go to, so I started talking a lot around people who I knew about trying to go to a Georgia football game.

Long story short…I don’t remember all of the details of how it happened, but I finally found out who was doing it and the situation was dealt with (like Jesus would have…maybe).

Sure, that was a softball, but even if they were not that bad at deception, and I did not have boundaries, I could have given into the temptation to meet-up with a Georgia cheerleader and my reputation, my character and my integrity would have been shattered. By the Way, when you are married to the sexiest woman on the planet, this is an easy temptation to overcome because no other woman can compare! :)

By passing this test and maintaining my character, when a “concerned” lady in my church several years ago ran into my mom-in-law in the store and tried to accuse me of “being in the car” with another woman. My mom-in-law (who is wonderful by the way) knew immediately that this woman was only trying to cause problems and get me in trouble. My mom-in-law also knew that I was currently working at a car dealership and it was my job to be in the car with all sorts of people who wanted to test drive a car. By the way, this car only had a dealer tag and a sales sticker in the window. The fact is, some people are just fools.

The Traffic Light

In the marriage course, a Biblical Portrait of Marriage, Bruce Wilkinson talks about the traffic light and how we all put off a signal.

  • The Red Light (meaning stop) signifies that “You” are not available.
  • The Yellow Light (meaning slow down)….well, I’m 30, my memory is slipping from me. Let’s just say it means you still don’t have proper boundaries.
  • The Green Light (meaning go) signifies that “You” are available.

The question you have to ask yourself as a married spouse is what signal are you giving others outside your marriage? How do you talk with those individuals? How do you exchange touches? What kind of compliments do you pay them?

If you have the proper boundaries, when others interact with you, they should not receive any sincere or false signals that you are remotely “available” to them.

I’ll post later about my personal boundaries that I have set…

Men and Women…Join the Conversation…Have you set boundaries as an individual for your relationship to your significant other? What are they?

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Pivot Points

piv·ot point: The point at which something pivots, changes, or turns (my definition)

This Sunday we kickoff our new marriage campaign I DO…Not Anymore at New Passion. As I’ve been preparing for the messages I was thinking about some of the pivot points in my own marriage. Nicki and I got married young and we face our share of struggles, but by God’s grace we celebrated 10 years of marriage last November. Throughout this series I will post about some of these pivot points we’ve made that were positive moves in our marriage.

This first pivot point was a subtle change that we felt led to make early in our marriage but the results and benefits of this change have lasted us and have been experienced over and over throughout our marriage.

PIVOT POINT #1: Shifted from tithing on our net income to our gross income.

Money has never really been an issue of contention with Nicki and me (We’ve had short spats, but no big brawls). When we first got married we had plenty of money. We never questioned how we were going to pay our bills and the term “pay check to pay check” was foreign to us. We always had money in the bank, we had new(er) cars and a nice house.

But, everything has to change at some point right? The life of financial ease would not last very long.

We were giving a tithe to God. A tithe is 10% of the income God provides to us. However, we were giving a tithe on our net income, meaning that when we got paid we were giving Blue Cross Blue Shield their share first, the U.S. Government their share second, and then God 10% of what was left over.

We heard a pastor preach a message about the tithe being the first fruit and how it should be our response to God’s goodness to us. In worshiping God through our tithe our best would be giving back to him that first fruit from the total of what he has blessed us with. I had never really been taught what was what. I had friends who were giving their tithe after paying all of their bills. This message not only struck home with Nicki and me, but also with some of our friends.

Nicki and I decided that we were going to start worshiping God with our tithe from the gross of what he had blessed us with. Because symbolically, we wanted God to be first in our money and first in our home. This was the best way we could demonstrate this to God.

A Back Story – - – (I am not presenting a prosperity gospel) – - I believe when we did this God communicated something to us. Here’s how. I had a four wheeler that I bought but never got to ride. So, I placed it in the IWANTA to sell it. Several weeks had passed and I heard nothing. The day Nicki and I decided to start tithing on our gross (with the right motivations) I had a phone call from a guy wanting to see the four wheeler. The next day he was at my house looking at it. I tried to start it three times and it wouldn’t start. On the fourth attempt it started. The guy bought the four wheeler that day and didn’t even try to negotiate a lower price.

Does this mean that if we tithe on our gross or tithe at all that God will always act on our behalf and become our personal genie? No! In fact, the impression that I felt God was communicating to me at that moment was this, “If you put me first in everything, I will take care of you (not give me what I want).” Since that day, we followed through with our goal of having Nicki stay at home with the children (up until last year she started working part time at a gift shop). Honestly, we have faced some very dark financial issues since this pivotal day in our marriage. We have had challenges as a family. But God, has sustained us. Are we rich? By America’s standards, no. According to the world’s standards, yes! Do we have the nicest material possessions because of this pivot point? No. Do we have everything together as a family? Far from it. The reality is, this pivot point was not a magic pill to give us everything we wanted.

This pivot point was our communicating and committing to God that he was first in our marriage, our finances and in our home. Even when we didn’t have the money to pay the bills, we put God first. It has not always been easy. But there are undeniable, obvious finger prints of God on my household because he has taken care of us in good times and in bad.

In addition, because we learned these principles in our marriage, they play a huge role at New Passion as well. It was set in our DNA from the very beginning that we would put God first in the church’s finances by giving at least a tithe as a church to missions. God has honored this commitment.

Join the Conversation…Have you had to come to a pivot point in your marriage with God and finances?

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For Sale: 2004 Chevrolet Trailblazer LT EXT

Nicki and I purchased our 2004 Chevrolet Trailblazer LT Extended cab (3rd row) in June 2008. At the time we had two children in car seats and a third in a booster seat. There was no way we could fit them all on the single row seat in our 2005 Nissan X-Terra, so the Chevrolet Trailblazer’s third row was perfect to safely fit our children without having to buy a minivan.

Now, two and a half years later, Gavin is too big for a booster, Tristan is now using a booster and Hailey is the only one in a car seat. All of the kids use the second row of the Trailblazer and we have a lot of extra room that we don’t use, so we are downsizing. Here are the details and pictures of the vehicle:

  • Vortec V6
  • 84,000 miles
  • 3rd Row (Seats 7)
  • Sunroof
  • Dark Gray Cloth Interior
  • CD/Cassett Player
  • AC/Heat
  • Rear AC/Heat
  • Running Boards
  • Tow Package
  • Homelink
  • OnStar (Service Extra)
  • Power Windows and locks with Keyless Entry (2 Remotes)

The vehicle is in great condition internally and externally and has been regularly maintained.

Price: $10,500

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Reflections on 30 Years of Life

Well tonight at 9:35 p.m. (and not a second earlier) I will enter into the infamous old man’s club, as I enter my third decade of life. I want to use this post to reflect on some of my memories both good and bad over the last 30 years, so enjoy a little bit of my life….

  • I remember that first evening at St. Joseph Hospital in Augusta, GA. It was cold, I really wish they would make hospitals a little warmer for new babies, however, that could not take away from being the best looking baby born that night December 16, 1980. I remember the doctors saying out of all 25 babies born that night, I was also the best behaved, and I looked the most like Jesus. They were so kind!
  • I spent most of my childhood with a chipped tooth. In most of the pictures where I am smiling as a child you can see it. It really didn’t bother me, it was kind of like a badge of honor. I was kind of sad the day it fell out.
  • I used to not be able to pronounce the “R” sound. I would say it like a “W” – My fourth grade speech therapist threatened to cut the little thing under my tongue. I learned to say the “R” sound.
  • I was convinced for a LONG time, like up until last year, that Santa Clause was real, because a dad dressed up and sat out on his porch at the corner house on Heard Ave. peering into his child’s bedroom. Wait…I hope it was the child’s dad.
  • I used to love going to the Mall and eating at “Corn Dog”  and getting an Orange Julius. Those were great times.
  • There is a seafood restaurant in Augusta called T’s. I liked going there because I thought “Mr. T” owned it.
  • I loved watching Knight Rider, the A-Team, the Fall Guy, Air Wolf, CHiPs, The Justice League, Transformers, their poor man knock-offs the Gobots, and I loved Saturday Cartoons along with USA’s Cartoon Express.
  • I love(d) Superman.
  • I am Superman.
  • I collected all of the Justice League Characters.
  • I wasn’t allowed to watch the Smurfs growing up. My dad was a very strict for a while, until we took him to a Third Day concert.
  • I grew up in some very legalistic, fundamental churches.
  • I am still in therapy.
  • Honestly: I am thankful for the Christian heritage and foundation that God has given me. I am thankful for every Church and Christian who has invested in my life. I believe that it’s through those churches and people that I have found God for who I know him to be today. I love what Acts 17:27 says, “His purpose was for the nations to seek after God and perhaps feel their way toward him and find him—though he is not far from any one of us.” I believe He placed me where I could find him best.
  • I used to love going to my Granny’s house on Friday nights. Most of our family would be there. We grew up together and all of us are very close. We dressed up and performed songs for our family, we played together in the play room, and it was awesome when Granny would open “K-Mart” (the back room where she kept the toys she found on clearance) to give us a special toy. My cousins always put me up to asking Granny to open K-Mart, even after my dad told me in the car, “Don’t ask for anything!” So, Granny would open K-Mart, give us a toy, and then I got to stand in the corner. I think my Cousins owe me.
  • My Granny died one early Saturday morning after one of our visits on Saturday night. I miss her.
  • I love(d) going to my Grandma and Grandpa’s house in Covington, GA. I’d go up for week’s at a time and I would help my Grandparents work and Grandma would take us shopping at Sears. They took me on a tour of parts of the U.S. from Georgia to Florida to Illinois to New York City, and then another trip to Cherokee and Santa Land. Those were good times!
  • I am thankful for great parents who raised me in a Christian home. For a mom who stayed at home to raise my brother and sisters. She was doing backyard Bible clubs with my family and cousins before they were cool. I am thankful for a dad who at many times worked multiple jobs to make it possible for my mom to stay at home with us and to do Backyard Bible clubs.
  • We used to have a Sky City right behind our house, so we would walk to it during the day. I would ALWAYS get a free coke out of the coke machine. My cousins would even go bang on the machine before me to try and get one first. It didn’t work. It only worked for me. It was crazy! My family was poor, so me and my sister and all of my cousins (8 total kids) would cram into this little machine that played a quick cartoon for .25 cents.
  • I was a Coke-a-holic. I hate drinking water, so all I used to drink was Coke.
  • My parents tried to limit my intake of Coke.
  • It didn’t work. I was 50 pounds overweight three years ago, mainly because of Coke.
  • I lost 53 pounds and went from 193 lbs to 140 lbs, I am now around 145.
  • I knocked myself out in Middle School. I was running and tripped and landed with a curb up my ribs. My girlfriend (not to be confused with the love of my life mentioned next) cried, she thought I was dead!
  • In 6th grade I met the love of my life. She didn’t know it yet. In fact I had to persuade her to be my girlfriend with a box of chocolates.
  • I broke up with her a couple of weeks later because my best friend dumped her best friend.
  • She practically begged me to take her back when I was in 12th grade. We’ve been together ever since.
  • I have the most beautiful, stubborn, kind, hardheaded, patient, hardworking, frustrating, and loving wife. I have been honored to be married to her for a third of my life (10 years for the math challenged).
  • She won’t leave me alone and I can’t tell her no, so God has blessed us with three amazing children, Gavin, Tristan, and Hailey.
  • I attend the greatest church in the world, New Passion Church. We have one of the greatest looking pastors in the world! We are on the brink of seeing God do amazing things through our church. I can’t wait to be a part of it!
  • It would be a mockery of God to not acknowledge that I am truly a blessed man. God has done great things in my first 30 years, I cannot wait to see what he does in the next 30 years.
  • If you are reading this and you know me. Thank you for being a part of my first 30 years! My memory may fade and I may not know you after today (you know us old people) but I am grateful for you.
  • In honor of my birthday, you can help make memories for people in Africa that do not have clean water. A donation of any amount towards my birthday campaign will help provide clean water for many people who may not live to see 30 without it!
  • http://mycharitywater.org/nickcarnes

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Depends and Bifocals

Well. It’s almost here. At 9:35 p.m. tomorrow (and not a second earlier) I will turn the big 30! I guess I need to carve out some time Friday morning to go get sized for my new life of Depends. I probably need to go by Eye Glass World or somewhere like that to treat myself to a brand new pair of bifocals too. We’re going to Sconyers BBQ on Friday night for my birthday, so I really can’t delay getting these things done if I want to read the menu, and only God knows what will happen with my bladder and digestive system as of 9:35 p.m. tomorrow, so I definitely CANNOT delay with the Depends, those will be top priority. I would hate to have an embarrassing episode, but then again, I will be a rookie goldy oldie so I guess it’s expected.

I wonder if 30 among the elderly is like being a freshmen in high school. I fear being hazed by the older, older people. I guess I’ll have to keep a close eye on my dentures and walker so no one hides them. You know how our memory gets lost with everything else, I’ll never find them if they get a hold of them.

While my memory is still flickering slightly better than it will be at 9:35 p.m. tomorrow night. I must remind you, because I know everyone reading this is ringing their hands right now and are nervous that you have not bought be a birthday gift. So, you are thinking that you are going to have to go battle the Christmas traffic or the long lines to get me the very best gift in the world. But, do not be afraid! That seems to sound familiar. Although I know you were going to lavish me with wonderful gifts, I must decline. I am asking you to celebrate the 30 wonderful years God has blessed me with by blessing those in Africa who do not have clean water. Many children will not live to see this ripe old age of 30 because they don’t have usable water. Will you go give a gift of any size to this effort? Instead of going out and buying that pack of Depends for me, you may want to give the equivalent amount (approx. $13) towards my campaign, or if you are really feeling generous you can give $1 per year I’ve been alive, that will provide 1.5 people water for the next 20 years!  The direct link to the gift giving site is: http://mycharitywater.org/nickcarnes

P.S. Billy Wilson says he and Seree went to the Apple Store to buy me an iPad for my birthday when he pulled up my blog in the store and saw that I was  asking for water instead. So, they put the iPad back. Do me a favor and please go to Billy’s Facebok page, his Twitter, and/or his Email and help remind him and Seree to donate the equivalent amount of money for an iPad in a water donation to my campaign, since they were feeling so generous this Birthday season!

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Nobody Loves Me, Everybody Hates Me

In one week my life changes forever. I leave these glory days known as the 20′s behind for a much darker, scarier land full of broken hips, bad eye sight, and dentures. Yes, on December 16, just seven days away, I enter my 30′s. All I know is that it will be a depressing week!

What makes it more depressing is that I have recently discovered that the only people who love me is my sister and her family and (updated) my parents. See, they are the ONLY ones who have given clean water to families in Africa in honor of my birthday (insert guilt here). It is almost too much to bear thinking that those poor (literally) children will suffer because of people’s lack of love for me (insert more guilt here).

Or, maybe it’s the curse of my birth, being born in December. I remember those Christmas mornings where family members would tell me that my birthday gift was included in the same box as my Christmas gift, so I would tear into the package to see what I got, and somehow it was the same gift my cousins next to me got too. I guess my cousins were celebrating my birthday with me or maybe they thought I was too young to notice. I understand that December is a tight, difficult month for some, I guess people don’t need water in December, in fact they should just learn to wait until February, after all, someone needs another fruitcake or silly tie they will never wear while telling you it’s awesome (Yes, everyone without a December Birthday should feel guilty here)!

So, maybe God (or guilt) has moved in your heart and you realize you’ve found a little bit of love for me. Okay, maybe it’s not enough love for $30 ($1 per year of my birth) worth of water to provide 1.5 people clean water for 20 years, but maybe it’s $5 or $10 or $20 worth of love. If you have discovered that you love me in any amount, you can go ahead and send that love gift to Charity:Water on my behalf.

Can you feel the love tonight?

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My Birthday is December 16, This is What I Want…

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In honor of my birthday, I am asking everyone who reads this to give $1 for every year I’ve been alive to help give life and sustain life for the multitudes of people who do not have clean water through Charity:Water.

While we worry that we don’t have the latest X-Box game or the newest album from our favorite artist or the newest article of clothing that’s hit the retail stores, millions of people around the world worry about having what’s actually necessary for LIFE. Clean, drinkable, usable WATER. God’s blessed me with a healthy family, a home, a car, food and clean water. This year for my birthday instead of getting more of what I don’t really need, I want to be the hands and feet of Jesus to help bless other people.

“Then these righteous ones will reply, ‘Lord, when did we ever see you hungry and feed you? Or thirsty and give you something to drink? Or a stranger and show you hospitality? Or naked and give you clothing? When did we ever see you sick or in prison and visit you?’ “And the King will say, ‘I tell you the truth, when you did it to one of the least of these my brothers and sisters, you were doing it to me!’ Matthew 25:37-40

I’ve accepted the birthday challenge presented by Charity:Water at the 2010 Catalyst Conference. I’ve set a goal of $1,500, which comes out to 50 people giving a $30 gift to provide 75 people with clean water for 20 years. If we can raise $5,000 that will provide an entire village clean water. By the Way…this is HUGE…100% of your donation goes to provide clean water to the people in need, it does not go to administration fees or anything else. It all goes to provide clean water!

Check out Why Clean Water on Charity Water’s Site.

Except for when I was a child, I’ve never asked anyone to give me anything for my birthday, but this year I will ask you to give a $30 gift in honor of my birthday to provide people clean water. Will you do that? You can give that gift at my Charity:Water Birthday Campaign Site.

The direct URL to the site is: http://mycharitywater.org/nickcarnes

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My T-Mobile Nightmare: Buyers Beware

UPDATE: After T-Mobile read the details of my blog, they contacted me within a couple of days and offered to replace my Samsung Behold 2 that was having the problems with the new Samsung Vibrant. The phone (so far) works great, it is an amazing phone, T-Mobile made the appropriate adjustments to the bill for the new phone, and covered the shipping cost with an adjustment to our bill. In addition the customer representative was very kind and helpful.

tmobilelogobuttonI don’t remember ever using my blog to write a negative report about a company, however, I have never dealt with an issue as extreme or as messed up as the one I am about to share from T-Mobile.

Let me say up front, my wife and I have been with T-Mobile since they purchased SunCom and up until this past March (2010) we did not have any issues with them. I was with SunCom since 2002 and other than some coverage issues when we first switched from Alltel, we were 100% satisfied. Oh, how things change….

The Nightmare Begins:

My wife and I discovered that we were eligible for an upgrade on our phone because we were out of contract with T-Mobile (basically we were free to find a new company if we wanted to). We went to the T-Mobile Limited in Evans, Georgia to see what kind of deals they had on phones. Nicki and I were excited to finally be able to get a good deal on new phones. At times my phone would simply not receive calls, while Nicki was looking for one that had a keyboard to make texting easier.

I think what bothers me the most is the fact that Nicki and I had a sweet deal on our mobile plans and now due to deception and outright lies, we’ve lost that plan, can never get it back, and we are stuck for two years completely unsatisfied, while problems still persist.

More Headaches for Life?

More Headaches for Life?

We were told by the T-Mobile representative that we had to change our SunCom plan over to a T-Mobile plan in order to get one of the new android phones. This was a huge jump for us because I had been with SunCom for so long, they were giving me loyalty discounts on top of my already Un-Plan that gave Nicki and I an Unlimited family plan for less than $70 a month (before taxes & fees). Now I was going to have to upgrade to a more expensive T-Mobile unlimited plan and add unlimited data for an extra $30 per month. When we asked what our monthly bill would look like, we balked at the price. I asked if this was the best that T-Mobile could do since we had been with the company for so long. The representative said, I can get you an additional 15% off your monthly bill, so he figured up what our new monthly total would be. With this 15% discount, it was still a decent increase in our bill, but I knew the increase in technology would be worth it.

Knowing that we were out of contract, we wanted to do ourselves justice and check to see if there were better deals with other companies, so we left T-Mobile and went shopping. The only problem is, we went shopping based on the 15% discount we were promised, so when comparing with other companies, we were still getting a better deal by staying with T-Mobile. The next day we upgraded our plan with T-Mobile (under the assumption of an additional 15% discount).

The Lies, Deceptions and Headaches:

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As I signed the contract, I asked the representative where the 15% discount was listed. He told me that it would not show up on the paper he was giving me because it was a loyalty discount and that it would show up on the first bill. The fees listed were just those of the normal rate plans.

Month #1: When the first bill came, no discount! I called T-Mobile. The representative on the phone told me that he can see any and all discounts that should have posted or that are waiting to post on the next billing cycle. He said there was no discounts waiting to post. I asked him what I should do and he told me that he personally would go to the store and stay there until the situation was corrected. He also informed me that the location that sold me my phone was not a T-Mobile store, that they were a dealer.

*Note: Nicki and I had no idea that this was a dealer. The store is located in a retail strip so we assumed that it was a smaller T-Mobile store. Nowhere did we see that it said they were an authorized dealer. The representatives even wore the T-Mobile pink shirts*

I went to the store and told them about the situation. Now the salesperson said that the discount wouldn’t post for two months. I took the phone representatives advice and told them I wanted the situation resolved now. The store rep said that he would check into it. What did he find? The discount had been rejected the first time. He said, “It must have been an error in the submission.” So he got on the phone to “correct” it. He was even going to call “someone” else to get us a little bit of a credit on our next bill for the troubles. When he was on the phone with T-Mobile Corporate to fix the discount, I remember him saying, “Ok” and hanging up. I asked him, “So, is everything cool?“  He responded that everything was taken care of and the discount would appear on our bill.

Month #2: The second bill arrived. Guess what! No discount. I called T-Mobile and explained the situation again. This time the gentleman said that he saw the discount and it was ready to apply to the third months bill. He issued us a credit and we ended the call.

Month #3: The third bill arrived. Guess what! No discount. Since it was a busy month I was not able to get with the local salesperson and it slipped my mind every time Nicki asked me to call them.

Month #4: The fourth bill arrived. Guess what! No discount. This time I called immediately (Saturday, July 3, 2010). I spent at least a couple of hours on the phone with T-Mobile, demanding something be done that day, and here is what I found out:

  1. The “discount” I was promised was only good for “Features” not the monthly plan. So what would have been over a $20 per month discount was going to be $6 or $7
  2. I wasn’t eligible for this “discount” promised to me. It was a corporate discount for Wells Fargo/Wachovia.
  3. The reason it was rejected the first time is because the store rep did not submit employment verification. Why? Because I do not work for Wells Fargo/Wachovia, he knew that, and was trying to be deceptive. I found this out 4 months later from the T-Mobile phone rep.
  4. The reason the discount did not post afterward and was in limbo (and this is where the situation gets frustrating and messed up) is because T-Mobile Corporate asked the salesperson for my employment verification back when I went into the store to get the discount fixed. He said “Ok” and hung-up on the lady. She fortunately marked this on my account, one of the many phone reps I talked to on Saturday, July 3, informed me about this. The salesperson boldfaced lied to me, knowing that I was not eligible for this discount, that it was not for the total monthly bill, and that the discount would never post to our bill due to his not submitting the proper forms and hanging up on the corporate rep. His final lie was when he told me everything was fixed.

T-Mobile, No Help At All:

no-tmobileI spoke with at least five people on Saturday, July 3, 2010. After several hours on the phone I had a migraine. One of the men who I talked to (he was supposed to be a supervisor) told me straight up after I told him the above story (for the fourth time that day). “I’m just trying to figure out what the truth is here!” The audacity! Two representatives before him pointed out that it looked like the salesperson lied to me and now this supervisor is insinuating that I am lying. What was his grand plan?

He would credit back one month of the data plan and remove the plan for the rest of our contract. I just had to go back to using my old phone. I told him I did not like his solution, but would have to talk to my wife. In my migraine induced state, she reminded me that we upgraded the phone because I had problems with it and agreed with my assessment to the man that we would be losing money (the upgrade credit we got, the additional $75 we paid for my phone, and we would not be eligible for another upgrade for two years). This supervisor seemed pleased with our losing money.

When I called back, I rejected the deal and told the representative that I was talking to at the time that we have lost interest in staying with T-Mobile. I have a friend who is a upper manager and I believe he talks up T-Mobile because he works there and he has to. They transferred me to the “Retention” department. Where the lady offered me $10 off our data plan and to upgrade our text plans to unlimited for the $5 monthly plan we were already paying. I accepted. Why? Because this was the best plan? No! I had a migraine and my family was waiting on me to go see How to Train Your Dragon at the theater, and after being on the phone with T-Mobile for several hours I had come to realize that they are perfectly okay with allowing their representatives (even if it is a dealer) to screw you, outright lie to you, and you (the customer) are supposed to be perfectly content and okay with that deal. They want you to honor a two-year contract, but they themselves do not honor their word or provide good service.

They seem satisfied that we are locked into a two-year contract that was formed from the basis of a lie. In addition if we wanted to pay what we are paying we could have done so through another company that we turned down due to the false 15% discount.

The Nightmare Continues:

In addition to dealing with all of that, my nightmare with T-Mobile now continues. My phone, the Samsung Behold 2, has a well documented samsung-behold-2problem (Noted on Phandroid too). Its so notorious that T-Mobile themselves admit that they have had several users complain about it. I have now lost all of my personal data on my memory card four times! The phone keeps saying that the external memory card is not inserted or that the external memory card is damaged. So, I have to continually reformat the disc.

I called Samsung because the phone is four months old and still under warranty. They told me there is an over-the-air update that T-Mobile needs to send me. So, I called T-Mobile. They say there is no over-the-air update ready at this time. Oh, its ready, they just aren’t releasing it yet. They claim I have two choices for a solution: #1 Pay around $40 to buy a new 4 GB memory card to replace the 2 GB card that comes with the phone or #2 Wait an unspecified amount of time until T-Mobile sends out the software update that fixes the phone.

So once again, T-Mobile is okay with me spending more money, especially on a phone that is under warranty, that I just bought, but they are unwilling to send me the needed update that makes my service and my phone work properly. They say they need to test it a little longer. How much longer? Until my phone is out of warranty? T-Mobile also claims that it would be pointless to replace my phone because they all use that software at the time.

So they can’t send me a memory card that works? Another type phone that works? Really?

So from T-Mobile being perfectly okay with their representatives lying to customers and then giving the customer the run around for hours, only to give a portion of what was promised in the first place, to now refusing to provide service that is functional or fixing a phone that is not working properly and is under warranty. I would say, do your homework and beware of what you may be getting yourself into with T-Mobile.

…From personal experience!

Nick

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No I am Not Pedophile Pastor Nicholas Carnes

nicholascarnespedophileThe image you are looking at on the left is a picture of Pedophile Pastor Nicholas Carnes. Just for clarification, he is a pedophile, not a pastor.

If you have come to this site because you are searching for him or his church, this is not it. I apologize. I used to be a youth pastor, but am now the lead pastor of New Passion Church in Grovetown, Georgia. (About Me Page)

Pedophile Nicholas Carnes, was the youth director at several local churches in Port Huron, Michigan. I am not sure which church specifically.

I understand that this pedophile is a sinner and loved by God just like everyone else, however, Jesus said the following, “It would be better to be thrown into the sea with a millstone hung around your neck than to cause one of these little ones to fall into sin.Luke 17:2

What I know is that police have enough evidence to arrest him, however, I do not know that he harmed any students in his care, however, parents have come forward and reported that they were uncomfortable with his actions with their children and they  reported their concerns to the church and the church did nothing. I pray he did not harm one of the young teens in his care.

Although I am upset that Nicholas has hurt the name we share and the name of a real life hero, in addition to pastors and youth pastors. This is a sober reminder that we as the church must be aware of who we put into leadership, do background checks for all of our ministry environments that care for minors, and keep our eyes open at all times.

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New Year’s Resolutions

new-year-resolutionThere are many feelings on both sides of the isle about New Year’s Resolutions. There are some who think they are stupid. I’ve found most of the time, those people cannot keep a resolution themselves, so they criticize the whole thing. I don’t blame people for not being able to keep a resolution, most of the time people get caught up in the emotion of things and they desire change so they ramble off a resolution. (Weight loss, home improvements, more charitable giving, etc.) Who can blame them? I’ve had people get caught up in the emotion of our launching New Passion, promise assistance, but they failed to deliver. I remember when I was younger seeing one of those videos of the children in desperate need of support for only $31 per month, I was all excited to sponsor a child, only to lose the packet when I got home. Who hasn’t made commitments or resolutions they haven’t kept? Then there are those who can’t wait until December 31 so they can present their list of things they want to resolve in their life. Some of them hold to it, while others do not. I don’t think resolutions are a bad thing. Scripture constantly reminds us to make things new. (God’s promise of a “new” covenant, David: “Create in me a clean heart, O God. Renew a loyal spirit within me.“, Jesus: “Look, I am making all things new

Several years ago, I made a resolution not to make resolutions any more. Guess what? I’ve held to my resolution. I do however like to set goals for the coming year. I was looking back on my 2009 goals and I can comfortably say that I feel like I’ve achieved the goals that I set out. So here are my goals for 2010:

  • To make Risk my drug of choice. Seriously, most things are not achieved without taking risks. (Check out this post from 2009 for proof)
  • To be a better husband and father – Three major things that drive me to get others involved in our ministry at New Passion is as follows: 1. To get people serving where they are passionate 2. To provide relief to those who are serving weekly 3. To free up personal time where I can spend more with my kids. I hated hearing Gavin ask in 2009, “Daddy, why are you always on your laptop?” And then once he gave me a pretend ticket for $1,000 for being on my computer too much…Ouch!
  • To continue learning – I’ve learned just how much I do not know in 2009. I’ve got a long way to go….
  • To love Jesus and Others more – How can one go wrong if this is their focus?
  • To be open for God to use New Passion in HUGE ways – I am not content in being an average pastor or having an average church. No matter how big or small we are, I believe if we are open to God’s plan, he WILL allow us to be a part of what he is doing, and there is nothing better to be a part of!

Join the Conversation…What are your 2010 goals or resolutions?

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