Conversations with a 2 Year Old

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…about “Onalds” (Translated: McDonald’s)

Everyday Nicki has to drive by McDonald’s to take Gavin to school…everyday Tristan begs to go to McDonald’s. McDonald is Tristan’s hero, he can be asleep and if we come within 3 miles of a McDonald’s his special radar goes off and he starts calling out for “Onald’s!!!” “Onald’s!!!”

The typical conversation goes like this…

Tristan: “Onald’s!!!”
Mommy: “No Tristan, we don’t have the money for McDonald’s”
(Repeat 10-20 times)

Today, this is how the conversation went at home…

Tristan: “Onald’s!!!”
Me: “What Tristan?”
Tristan: “Onald’s!!!”

As I looked down, Tristan was holding up a penny, asking to go to McDonald’s. Tristan always amazes us with his memory. If we tell him something, at two years old, it is seared into his brain…that’s why we make very little promises to him…he will hold our feet to the fire. Unfortunately, he does not have a perception of money, because a penny doesn’t buy anything, but he doesn’t care, for all he knows, it’s money and mommy never has enough to go to “Onald’s” – Today she is taking the boys for ice cream at Onald’s with Tristan’s penny. It truly was the most adorable thing I’ve seen in a long time! :)

Join the Conversation: What is the most adorable thing you have seen, besides my profile picture, lately? :)

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Thank You 1000 Times!!!

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Thanks to all who have contributed to my blog by joining the many conversations. You have helped me reach 1000 comments, a feat which reveals how small-time of a blogger I am, yet is still a big accomplishment for such a small-time blogger. Thank you for helping me form this small community, I look forward to seeing where it goes from here and the next 1,000 comments to come.

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One Year Ago Today

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On Thanksgiving exactly 1 year ago today, I began a journey that has changed my life, hopefully forever. It took a lot of pain and sickness to begin this journey, but now as I look back, I can say I am glad I endured it.

Since last year I have lost 47lbs. I was 193 lbs the Tuesday before Thanksgiving and as of Monday (the day I am scheduling this post) I am 146 lbs. I told my wife I was going to try and lose 3 more pounds so I could round it up to 50, but no luck so far! :)

For those who do not know the story, I was extremely sick and in a lot of pain the Wednesday before Thanksgiving last year. I drove myself to the Emergency prompt care where I was diagnosed with an ulcer. I was given some medicine and sent home. The pain increased the next day and moved to the lower right side of my abdomen and eventually let me dad talk me into going to the ER. Once I arrived and saw a doctor, I was almost sent home without even being checked. The doctor read the chart and the diagnosis from the prompt care doctor and didn’t even walk in the door, before he turned to leave, I asked him a couple of questions that prompted him to do his job, and he skeptically decided to do a CT Scan on my Abdomen, he still stated he doubted I had anything wrong other than an ulcer. When the test results came back, they decided they needed to do an Emergency Appendectomy, and the rest is history…except the fact that the surgeon said my Appendix looked very sick, so I could have been sent home and it burst giving me gangrene or killing me. So, in my week of recovery I lost 6 lbs and determined to keep it up, I worked hard to lose the additional 41 lbs. My original goal was 165 lbs and I have overshot that by 19!

The positives: I feel great! I don’t dislike looking at myself in the mirror or having my picture taken. I’m in a whole lot better shape, I’m healthier, and I can encourage and empathize with people who are on a journey to lose weight and have a healthier lifestyle. Looking at old photos and seeing success!

The negatives: I’ve been criticized more since I lost weight than when I was 40 + lbs overweight. I guess some people don’t like to see others actually be successful at something they set out to accomplish. Along with losing 7 years of weight I lost as many years worth of clothes, so it has been challenging to replace them, especially with the changing season. Looking at old photos and regretting I let myself get so overweight.

The humorous side: Having people ask me, “So what did you do to lose all of your weight?” and then upon hearing my answer having them reply, “Oh, I could never do that!” – I guess some people want it the easy way!?

By the way…I missed Thanksgiving dinner last year and will be making up for it this year! :)

The Journey – Starts HERE6 lbsHERE – 10 lbs HERE179 lbs HERE172 HERE (Changing my Goal)167 HEREA Meal of Pills & 159 lbsI feel like Amway – 2 months finally lost 1 pound3-D Plan to eating healthy part 13-D plan to eating healthy part 2

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Married for 8 Years Today

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Today is a big day for me. I had the awesome responsibility to vote for our next President of the United States. I did so as a free man, there was no military presence at the voting precinct and I was not forced to vote against my will under threat of death. Today marks an even bigger day for me, it marks the day that 8 years ago my life was changed forever. It does not matter what direction our country turns in or if I had to live in a land full of oppression, I would still be the happiest man on earth, because I have the priviledge of being married to the love of my life and my best friend, Nicki. So today, this is a little of what I want to say to my wife…

On this day 8 years ago, you made the decision to start a new life journey with me. The many roads that we have traveled in these short 8 years have been full of twists and turns, hills and mountains, pot holes as well as smooth straight paths. I would be inaccurately describing it if I said it’s been anything short of an adventure.

Some of our roads were surprises while others have been of our own choosing, but no matter which road we’ve traveled we’ve come to the end together, and still we have many to complete.

I can easily say that after these 8 years we have a successful life. No we are not the wealthiest people on earth, ok, wealthy is not even in our dictionary, but we made decisions for our family that in 8 more years we will be thankful for. I cannot put a price tag on a loving wife that has sacrificed career and personal dreams to ensure that our children had a positive influence at home before being shipped off to school. The intelligence that our children have because of the influence of their mom is truly priceless and could never be copied by an outside daycare or child rearing source. I know at times its seems that your hard work making purses to help make ends meet goes unnoticed and is unappreciated, but I thank God for your dedication to our home, to our marriage, and to our children. In a self-serving and self-pleasing world I know that I have found a treasure in a woman who will put self aside for the good of her family. We are successful because we have 3 beautiful, healthy, smart, and loving children. All of them are growing into children, one day teenagers, and eventually adults who will be a blessing to the world around them; we’ve already seen this in their character and personality as they get older. I would trade riches any day for a beautiful, loving, healthy, and dedicated wife and for the three greatest children a man could ask for. This is just one of the many roads we are on, and when we get to the end of it, we will be a stronger couple, we will be stronger parents, and we will be stronger candidates for God to use. This 8 year journey has quickly passed us by and I can only hope that the next 8 will not be in such a rush to get here. Let’s not look too far in to our tomorrows, but savor all that God has blessed us with in all of our todays.

So, at the beginning of this new day together I thank you for sticking with me through all of my bone headed decisions; some turned out great while others made us dig to the surface just to get air. I thank you for being the best mom I could ever dream up for our children, for being a great influence on them, one that will lead them after Jesus throughout their entire life. I thank you for being dedicated to us, your family. I thank you for being you, and not anyone I may have tried to make you into over the years. I thank you for breakfast in the mornings and dinner in the evenings. I thank you for your creativity and allowing God to use those gifts He has given you. I thank you for allowing me to travel and experience some of my dreams while you hold down the fort at home. I thank you that you have given me the confidence and the trust that no matter where God leads us, whether it is a new town or just down the street you are going to be there with me when we get to the end of that road. Most of all, I thank you for loving me more than anyone ever has, more than anyone ever would, and more than anyone should. You are my very best friend…my everything! Happy 8th Year Anniversary!

I Love You,

Nick

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A Love Letter From God

My friend Hank Murphy sang this song at our CSRA See You At the Pole Event last night.

I like what he told the students…”Just listen to this love letter from God to You…”

I love this song, its called “How He Loves Us.” – I found this video on You Tube with it being performed.
(In my opinion Hank and his band did a better job…just my opinion :) )

Here are some of the words that are my favorite parts of the song:

“He is jealous for me
Love’s like a hurricane, I am a tree
Bending beneath the weight of His wind and mercy
When all of a sudden, I am unaware of these afflictions eclipsed by glory
and I realize just how beautiful You are and how great your affections are for me.”

“So we are His portion and He is our prize,
Drawn to redemption by the grace in His eyes
If grace is an ocean we’re all sinking
So heaven meets earth like a sloppy wet kiss
and my heart turns violently inside of my chest
I don’t have time to maintain these regrets when I think about the way”

That he loves us,”

So sit back and listen to this love letter from God to you…

Join the Conversation: What is God’s Love Letter Telling You?

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Sharing Life Through Difficult Times

I was contacted a couple of months ago by Samantha, an editor, writer, and representative for Bluefish TV, about contributing to their new website, The Small Group Exchange. I was really blown away & honored that they would be asking me (a nobody) to write something for such a well known ministry resource company.

My article, Sharing Life Through Difficult Times,  went live today. The article focuses on how huge of an impact our small groups had during the devistation caused by Hurrican Katrina. The other day, after Hurricane Ike, I posted a little bit about my former churches involvement surrounding Hurricane Katrina and posted two videos to show a little bit of what we did and what we saw. You can check those videos and that post out HERE.

Go read my new article on the Small Group Exchange and come back here and let me know what you think.

Join the Conversation: How have small groups impacted your life or your church?

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To Shoot or Not To Shoot

…That is the question and your opinion matters:

Our back screened in porch has been overtaken by Raccoons. We moved into a rental house from my aunt and inherited her cat, a pet door to the porch, and the big container of food that my aunt or her husband comes and fills up for that cat, however we attract other neighborhood cats, plus the raccoons. We have had around 4 raccoons overtake the porch, they range from larger adults, to smaller ‘pups,’ that whimper like little puppy dogs and would almost let you pet them if you tried.

Join the Conversation: Should I shoot the raccoons to prevent them from overtaking our porch? We have two little boys who play in the yard, and my fear is if the raccoon has rabies and bites the cat, the cat could bite the children and then we have a serious problem. We called the animal control department, but they have yet to bring a trap. What do you think? I am leaning towards protecting my children and sending the raccoons to their sandy graves, but of course I would put flowers on their graves.

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Finally!!!

We should have bought one of these 6 weeks ago:

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Yeah watching a baby sleep in a swing is not that exciting, but when you have a baby who has colic, it is heaven on earth!!! Hailey has not fully adjusted to the swing, but she is getting there, we’ve only had it for one day.

Funny how priorities change in life. I would have rather had these:


For the same price as the swing, but I am happy to settle with the swing for Hailey, I am sure it will payoff big time over the next several months, as apparently it helps colicky babies to be moving.

Join the Conversation: What tricks have you had to learn with raising your children? (Animals can be included in this conversation! :) )

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The 3-D Plan to Eating Healthy (Part 2)

Yesterday I posted my first principle to what I believe is important to developing a lifestyle of healthier living and a healthier diet. Today, I would like to go beyond the desire that is needed to the second principle to developing a healthier lifestyle:

Determination: I don’t say this to pat myself on the back, but losing weight is hard! I believe I had to discipline myself more than I ever have for any one area of my life. I believe the desire that I spoke about yesterday is the kindling to starting the fire and determination is the logs that keep the flame burning.

There are days that the desires will cease, you will be tired and not want to put forth the extra effort that is required to see your desired results. There have been many days that I was worn out and had no energy after sitting at a desk all day. Now you may say, “You should be full of energy after sitting around all day!” However, it is more the opposite, when you sit around all day and your legs get stiff in the same position, it actually makes you want to go home and do the same, not stretch and get your body moving. However, even when the desires were not there, the determination to lose weight and to get healthier kept the flame within me going. There were days I wanted to skip my lunch meal of soup and go eat pizza or BBQ or Chinese food, however I knew those things would set me back, so as my desires weakened my determination kept me strong!

The picture above is a great example of how determination works. I had a picture in my mind of what I wanted to achieve (Yes Chuck it was to achieve your body as pictured on the massive Christmas Ornament I won at our Community Group Ornament Exchange :) ). My goal when I started this journey 2 years earlier was to get to 165 pounds. As I posted in March of this year, once I got to that goal, I realized that it was really not where I wanted to be, so I kept going, in that post you can see where I was seriously losing desire…I was tired, but my determination got me where I am today and that is at 152 pounds. From the time I started losing desire, my determination (and Chuck’s picture) pushed me to lose 15 additional pounds!

Now, my determination has changed somewhat. I now want to maintain what I have achieved and tone up a little. My wife laugh’s at me, but my new picture is a reverse of what my former picture was. I have a little mini shrine of all my fat pictures set up in our multi-purpose room where I do sit-ups and push-ups. There is seriously a picture where I have 3 chins. Those pictures help motivate me to work hard, even when I am tired to achieve my desired results. Determination drives me to run 4 miles at midnight, if that is what I have to do (which I have done many times) to keep a regular scheduled workout. My desire is now to stay healthy, and my determination will keep me there.

Join the Conversation: What are you determined to accomplish? Is that determination motivating you beyond your desires?

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The 3-D plan to eating healthy (Part 1)

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As many of my readers and friends know, I have recently taken a journey to change my life. For the purpose of this post, I am calling it the “3-D Diet plan to eating healthy,” and losing weight.

My story started about two years ago, but it has been less than a year that I actually started putting into action these 3 principles that I am laying out here. I love running across other success stories, as I did the other day with Rachel and her quest of losing 40 pounds in 1 summer! That’s quicker than my loss. As I have said before, I feel like I now am on the other side of the success story…the spokesman for Amway if you will (BTW I lost 7 pounds since that post), telling people that obtaining your dreams and goals is possible…here is how I believe you can do it:

Desire: Do you want things in your life to be different? I remember 7-8 years ago not caring what I ate, how much of it I ate, and most importantly what beverage I consumed. My favorite consumptions were Coca-Cola Classic, chinese food, and fried chicken. The truth is, two of the three still are my favorites, however my desires changed. My wife would comment how certain foods were high in calories, my response was, “At least if I die, I’ll die happy!” I knew I had gained approximately 40 pounds after I got married, but in the 7.5 years I had grown content with where I was. It was one December day, I finally renewed my gym membership and determined to start working out and losing some weight. I stepped on the scale and almost had a heart attack, not from over working and not from being over weight, but from shock at just how much more weight I had gained. I finally topped out at 53 pounds over my marriage weight. I was 5′ 10.5″ tall, but weighed 198…there was no way I was going to reach 200 pounds…no way!

It was that day that I finally quit Coke cold turkey! I had tried it before but I did not have enough desire to overcome my addiction. Trust me, I was literally a Coke-A-Holic. I never realized how bad they were for me, of course people told me, but I never did the math. I could go to a restaurant and allow the waitress to give me a few refills and consume over 1,000 calories in one sitting just with my beverage. That December day, my unhealthy desire died. I lost 14 pounds and felt good, but when my membership ran out I gained most of it back. I had another problem…my eating habits. As those who have followed my journey knows, it all started with an Apadectomy on Thanksgiving Day. I lost 10 pounds in my recovery week by cutting back mainly on my lunch calories. I changed my normal diet up a little since then, but it has mainly consisted of lowering calories and working out. Unless I know I am going to have a very strenuous workout later in the day or unless I am doing a lunch meeting, I only eat soup, a little bread, and un-sweet tea for lunch, this alone cut my lunch calories by more than half. I finally gained the desire that I needed to fuel my journey towards eating healthier, living healthier, and seeing results. I make myself eat breakfast, whereas I never ate breakfast before, and for dinner, unless it is the weekend and Nicki and I eat out, we typically eat a normal dinner, but Nicki has always cooked small portions with healthier ingredients. We have do not use a lot of butter and cooking oil and other items that needlessly add calories to our meals and truthfully we don’t know the difference. For example, Smuckers makes a sugar free syrup which is 25 calories per 1/4th cup versus 140 calories per 1/4th cup. It tastes just like regular syrup. The fact is, there are a lot of “diet” or “sugar free” items that are horrible, but you have to experiment.  As I saw results, my desires increased dramatically.

I try to reward myself one day a week. I’ll go to the chinese buffet (because I still love it!) or I will grab a double cheesburger from Wendys or hit my favorite BBQ joint, Carl’s Best. Part of keeping the desire to stay healthy is not squelching my natural desire for the things that taste good and that I crave, but are not healthy in excess.

Part 2 of the 3-D plan to eating healthy will focus on our need for Determination when trying to have a healthier lifestyle. Part 3 I will discuss the Dedication aspect of this plan. These 3 principles are really transferable in reaching any goal that you have in life. I’ll tell you this much. I may have thought I was fat and happy before I lost the weight, willing to die happy consuming those things I had grown addicted too, but I can truly say I am happy now and feel better than I ever have. Mostly because I am within the target weight for my build and height, but also because I achieved something great! Many people tell me I am too skinny for which I disagree, but I question, how do you quit eating healthier and being active and making sure you workout to maintain that which I have achieved? Do I simply become a couch potato? I can look at my pictures 40 pounds ago and say…I don’t have the desire to do that :)

Join the Conversation: Is there anything you need a change of desires to accomplish?

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